So Tired...
I truly wonder sometimes why things happen the way that they do. I've been holding alot in to myself, and it's starting to really drive me crazy. I'm sitting here in a house I have a perfectly good offer on, and the bank won't even reject it or counter it, even after 6 months. I put another offer down on what seemed to be a fairly decent home only to find mold and potential termite activity on the inspection. The bank that owns this house (it's a foreclosure) won't treat either it appears. My FHA loan probably won't be approved with things like that going on in the home, and furthermore with all the other work the house needs I don't have the money for the repair should the loan be approved.
I'm beyond frustrated. So if anybody wonders why I seem a little scarce, I've been having alot of difficulty dealing with all this. I'm told that house buying just isn't this way. So I guess I'm the lucky one. I'm about ready to give it entirely up.
I'm beyond frustrated. So if anybody wonders why I seem a little scarce, I've been having alot of difficulty dealing with all this. I'm told that house buying just isn't this way. So I guess I'm the lucky one. I'm about ready to give it entirely up.
posted by StargazerGirl at 9:39 PM
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You might find this wise or total crap, but there are times in my life that I endure -- and sometimes feel like I barely scrape through -- and it isn't until much later that I look back and say, "Wow, how did I ever have the strength (or perseverance or sheer will) to get through that situation?"
I think this is one of those times. Between the house stuff and what's going on with Rascal (and presumably school), I know you're feeling drained and pulled in many directions. Just remember, someday you're going to look back at this and realize you're a lot stronger than you think you are.
Love you. Call me.
House hunting should be GOOD right now; it is most definitely a buyer's market. SO perhaps there is some parameter you are limiting yourself by; maybe you should expand your location perimeters a bit to include more houses from which to choose, or up what you are willing to spend on a home. As with everything, you get what you pay for, remember that as well. Have you contacted anyone at the bank to see what the deal is about the offer holdup? It could very well be that the owner has decided that rent in hand is worth more than selling outright (for whatever reason) -- I'd check this out. Then I'd get off my hiney and hunt for another place to live, and do so. Make things easy on yourself: put unneeded stuff into storage in case your offer is suddenly accepted in the interim -- makes moving back and forth easier to handle. Anyway, what's with Rascal?
Oh yeah, not to denigrate what Kate posted above but... I hardly think that the house-buying-offer-holdup scenario is something one "endures." It's part and parcel of, well, living I suppose. ((Try living through the death of a close, loved one. THERE you truly DO endure as time goes on!)) What I'm trying to say is, try not to let this situation balloon out of control, emotionally. It's ONLY A DAMNED HOUSE, no matter how badly you want to own your own. THEY ARE OUT THERE, you might have to hunt longer, or harder, for just the right one. :)
With all due respect, I didn't compare her situation to a death in the family (which, for what it's worth, is also "part and parcel of, well, living, I suppose"). Cut her some slack. She's done her homework and she's living in the house she wants to own. There's not much more to be done except wait for the bank, and I'm sure it's very frustrating.
My husband says I shouldn't start a flame war over this, so I won't. But I will say sometimes people are searching for a sympathetic ear more than advice. Just a thought.
Sympathetic ears are, of course, good things. But too much sympathy leads to... well, nothing but maybe making someone feel a little better BECAUSE SOMEONE ELSE IS SYMPATHETIC. I am trying, in my own way, to provide other means of looking at things, so that strength being gained from the sympathy of others therefore would be stemming from another, more potent source: Carrie herself. Developing the means of looking at things from another angle is ALWAYS helpful, no matter what the problem. (It's along the lines of "no one can make you feel bad except yourself..." Think about that one...) ALSO, I just happened to think, maybe the owner does want to keep the house and rent it instead, so is dragging his or her feet. Houses are tax breaks, and I imagine there is quite a tax the seller would have to pay the government (state, feds, whatever) should the house sell and the monies be pocketed and not plopped back into another house. Or maybe the owner can't find a new place he or she wants; that might be the holdup. Point is, there are ALWAYS different ways of looking at things, and by doing so such annoyances can shrink down to where they are indeed just annoyances and not some major thing to "endure." True it's annoying to have to wait so long, but this is scarcely a reason to get depressed. It's a house. Patience.
Woo hoo! I can now say I've been inside Carrie's new house, and it is lovely. I know she and her family have spent a lot of time painting and getting things ready ... and the result is awesome. And the office painted in Florida State colors? Too cool. I'm sure Paul and I will have a blue-and-white Tiger room when we buy a home.
Post some pictures and show it off already!
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