Nothing to fear...
I'll admit it; I'm pretty much a social reject, and fairly antisocial. But that doesn't mean I don't feel alone. Heck, I feel alone everyday at somepoint, and I don't like it. It wasn't always this way; when I was in school I hung out some with my fellow music therapy friends, with my roomates, and so on. I wasn't ALWAYS doing something...
..but I wasn't feeling like a social washout either. Now, on the other hand...
...I don't go out with anyone. I don't do much of anything. There are few singles my age. I don't go partying. I don't drink. I'm a Star Wars fan and I roleplay.
I will also admit I don't trust people. I'm painfully shy IRL, and I don't think this is going to change anytime soon. Granted, I try to smile, be pleasant, etc., but I don't carry on lengthy conversations with people I don't know. Frequently, if someone is going to get to know me, they are going to have to take the initiative to do so themselves lately.
And lately, no one has done this. Not that I've been in any sort of social circles; other than school at night and work in the day, I don't go much of anywhere. I'm going to buy a telescope soon, and might join an Astronomy club, but quite honestly, I'm not sure if those are the people I want to trust either. Like I said, I'm single and I'm female and going somewhere alone at night (in order to use the scope) with people I've never met frankly freaks me out.
So what is the solution? For once it'd be really nice to receive more than one reply to this, I need feedback. And no, I don't need spam, so screw you all you spammers out there. YOU people have no life either, I don't think.
..but I wasn't feeling like a social washout either. Now, on the other hand...
...I don't go out with anyone. I don't do much of anything. There are few singles my age. I don't go partying. I don't drink. I'm a Star Wars fan and I roleplay.
I will also admit I don't trust people. I'm painfully shy IRL, and I don't think this is going to change anytime soon. Granted, I try to smile, be pleasant, etc., but I don't carry on lengthy conversations with people I don't know. Frequently, if someone is going to get to know me, they are going to have to take the initiative to do so themselves lately.
And lately, no one has done this. Not that I've been in any sort of social circles; other than school at night and work in the day, I don't go much of anywhere. I'm going to buy a telescope soon, and might join an Astronomy club, but quite honestly, I'm not sure if those are the people I want to trust either. Like I said, I'm single and I'm female and going somewhere alone at night (in order to use the scope) with people I've never met frankly freaks me out.
So what is the solution? For once it'd be really nice to receive more than one reply to this, I need feedback. And no, I don't need spam, so screw you all you spammers out there. YOU people have no life either, I don't think.
posted by StargazerGirl at 3:27 PM
4 Comments:
That's a lot of stuff to respond to in one comment! And I don't even think I'm one qualified to give you advice, since I spent the better part of the last five years working through my own anxiety/fear/depression issues. (Cross your fingers -- I think I'm on track now.)
I've known you ... forever ... and I know you have a sparkling personality hidden under there. You've always been shy, but I hate to see you closing yourself off. If there was some way I could spirit you back here, back to when things were better ... eh, there I go again, fighting against change and wishing things were better when they were "just so."
For now, until I know the words to make it all better, rest assured that you're in my thoughts and that I'm here when you need to talk. ::hugs::
on some level, we are all alone..i actually isolate myself from certain situations that could potentially land me a g/f, even.
cause im so pissed off with looking for relationships.
but then again, i do try and spend time with like-minded souls..theyre hard to come by, i must admit.
hang in there.
So what is the solution?
You asking ME this question? Me am Monstee! Me am not best person to be asking bout social interaction. Nor am me best person to ask advice. Sure, me know people all round world from all walk of life and periods of history, but that not mean me any good at making friends! Truth am, me (like many others) have many same problems you have. Me have problems making friends. Me think it am the body oder... or fact that me am so much greater than them... or that me am too humble. But enough about how great me am.
Me WISH me knew what solution am. Me along with so many others. Me make you deal. If me find out before you, me tell if you do same for me when you find out.
I think that you are right in wanting to join some sort of social club of likeminded people. Think about what you are interested in. Think about what could stretch you socially. It will be terribly awkward at first, but given time, you will surprise yourself.
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